How Independent should a woman be?

Have you ever thought about why nobody ever says “independent man” ? I guess nobody ever expects men to be anything but independent. By nature, men have been tagged independent, so why not women? It seems we have to earn our rights as women to be able to stand on the same level with powerful men.

It’s very important that we women do not have to rely on men for everything. A certain level of Independence should be instilled in every woman. This is something that should be worked on from birth, teaching the female child to change the tyres of the car, driving herself around, teaching her to be strong willed and fight to earn her place in the society.

I have often a heard some women say to their husbands/partners "My money, is my money and your money is our money". We're talking like 80% to 20% here, with the 20% coming from women of course. Should this really be the case? A man will always be a man and that ego is always there, if they need your help financially, assist but without hurting his ego. Now dont get it twisted, be dependent but don't be too dependent that is to say, cut him some slack sometimes.

So how independent should a woman be? Certainly not to the stage where she tries to be the man in her relationship. Let the man, be the man and let the woman be the woman. African women, especially in diaspora tend to forget where they’re coming from. As women, we have certain roles to play in the family, yes things may be hard and you happen to be a working class woman, but always remember that your family should always come first in everything We need to prioritise by put things in their right perspectives. Think about how miserable you would be without your family and your husband.

Stand strong, we’re women and we’ve been designed to withstand a lot of challenging situations. Hope for the best and always live your today like it were your last